We often see people on the streets holding signs, but how often do we think about their stories? Hard times, anything helps. This is what Bob wrote on his sign when he was panhandling on the streets. And for those who made time to stop, their acts of kindness made all the difference.
Bob moved to Colorado to live with his son when COVID began. As his son was working, Bob didn’t have a job and found himself drinking more and more every day to pass the time. What started as casual drinking turned into an addiction.
After an argument with his son about his drinking, Bob decided to go out onto the streets. For a year and a half, he lived on the streets, occasionally going back to stay with his son and his son’s kids.
During that time, Bob would panhandle on street corners, holding his sign that said, “hard times, anything helps.” Standing there with his sign as people drove by, he couldn’t help but feel embarrassed.
“Sober, it was embarrassing. Once you got drunk enough, you didn’t care,” he said. “Now that I’m sober, looking back, I feel like an inch tall that I let that happen to myself. I’m a better person than that. I want to show my son that everything he did for me didn’t go to waste.”
Bob is so grateful for the love—even if it was tough love—that his son, daughter and grandchildren showed him during that time in his life. That type of love, along with the kindness of strangers, made all the difference.
Just smiling, waving or making eye contact meant something to Bob during his time on the streets. But even with the kindness of strangers, Bob knew that living on the streets and panhandling wasn’t a permanent solution.
Bob’s son used to have a motorcycle like the one on his necklace. With his son’s ashes inside, Bob can carry his son with him every day. “I know he’s still with me.”
That’s when he joined the New Life Program at The Crossing, the Mission’s rehabilitation program for men. Everything seemed to be going well, but one day, Bob’s son was on his way to see him, got in an accident and sadly passed away.
“That blew my whole world apart,” Bob said.
That next week Bob relapsed and had to leave the program. Fortunately, he was able to rejoin the program later, making a promise to himself that his son’s efforts in helping him wouldn’t go to waste.
Bob went through the rest of the program and excelled, learning valuable life lessons from his counselor and other staff members. After graduating from the New Life Program, he joined Bridge, the Mission’s new name for the STAR Transitional Program.
A year later, Bob still struggles with the death of his son. Getting an emotional support dog, named Girl, has been one of his greatest sources of comfort. With Girl by his side, he knows he can get through even the hardest days.
“She’s been an emotional support more than you ever know,” he said. “Sometimes I just get heavy. I don’t know. I hope you never have to lose a child, but it’s just a heaviness, collapse and scared feeling.”
“Sometimes I just get heavy. I don’t know. I hope you never have to lose a child, but it’s just a heaviness, collapse and scared feeling.”
Bob shares some acts of kindness that strangers showed him during his time on the streets:
Each person you see has a story and a name. While giving money, food or other items to individuals who panhandle may meet their immediate needs, here are some things you can do to help fulfill their long-term needs:
As Bob looks toward his future, he hopes to find housing, continue his job in maintenance and most importantly, be a role model for his grandchildren. He is grateful to God for leading him to the Mission, and proud of himself for not giving up.
“I really don’t know where I would be if I didn’t have the Mission behind me right now,” he said. “They have been my source of maintaining stability.”
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